Bride Refuses to Try on Wedding Dress Bought by Mother without Her Approval: ‘Made a Big Decision Without Me’

• A bride wrote on Reddit that her mother went out on her own to buy her a wedding dress
• The woman explained that the poofy dress is not one that she would have picked out
• Her mother is “upset” that she has not tried on the wedding dress

A bride was left upset when her mother bought her a wedding dress without consulting her.

The woman, 28, wrote in Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum that her mother went out on her own to buy her a wedding dress. She added that her parent did not even ask to shop together or inquire about her dream look. 

“She literally went out, bought a dress she liked, and then put it in my closet without saying anything,” the disappointed bride wrote. “I just found it one day while getting something else — no conversation, no heads-up, just a dress hanging there.”

The woman explained that the purchased dress is not one that she would have picked out for herself. She described the gown as “big” and poofy.

Now, the bride said her mother is “upset” that she has not tried on the wedding dress and has accused her of being “ungrateful.” Making matters worse, her family is siding with the matriarch. “Family is saying I should just try it on to make her happy, but it feels like she made a big decision about my wedding without me,” she wrote.

“She let my two older sisters have their wedding dress moments and she didn’t even bother to ask me what I wanted,” the woman wrote of the faux pas, before asking if she is in the wrong. 

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In an update to the post, the frustrated bride addressed a few concerns she received from commenters. The woman specified that she found the wedding dress in her childhood closet at her parents’ house, and not at her own house. She also explained that she has no interest in learning how much the dress cost. 

“I didn’t ask, and honestly, I didn’t want to know,” the bride wrote. “The dress isn’t my style at all, and I’d probably be horrified to find out how much was spent on something I had no say in and don’t even like.” She added that the situation “isn’t really about the price tag.” Instead, she said she is upset over “not being included in such a personal decision and feeling like my preferences didn’t matter.”

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The comments section showered the bride with support. One accused her mother of “being controlling” and advised her to “hold firm” to her beliefs. “I’d recommend profusely thanking your mom for the dress, but that you’d always dreamed of trying on wedding dresses and picking ‘the one’ yourself,” they wrote. 

Another commenter told them to just get rid of the dress. “Sell or donate the dress and go have your wedding dress moment where you buy a dress you actually like and that’s in your style,” the person wrote. “Tell mum, and anyone else having a go, that it’s your wedding, and you have the right to choose your own dress, not be forced into a dress that clearly isn’t your style that you had zero say in just because someone who isn’t getting married and has no say wants you to. Refuse to discuss it further.”

A third suggested that the bride have a serious talk with her parent. “A wedding dress is a personal choice not something someone can ‘pick up’ for another person. Did your grandmother purchase your mom’s dress without her consent? Seems like you need to sit your mom down and have a conversation setting very good boundaries,” they wrote.